Valentine’s Day is the most overrated holiday introduced since Columbus Day. For years television shows, movies and plays have exaggerated what a guy has to do for the special lady in his life. Why is it that a guy is the one who always forgets the special dates? Not only is it now acceptable for girls to make the first move, but it should be expected. Let me explain; if a guy is getting uncertain vibes from a female or forgets to call her, the girl should buck up, pull her phone out and call him up. Many situations in which the girl goes home, cries and eats ice cream till she feels no one will love her, could be avoided.

Another argument is that women should wait for a gentleman to be a gentleman. This is not the 1950s. People don’t call each other “daddy-o” or hang out with their best friend, Billy, while making a model airplane; nor should gals wait for that male to be their knight in shining armor. Instead of being Sleeping Beauty, take the Mulan approach and conquer that man.

For every single girl looking for a relationship there’s a single guy looking for the same. No one likes to be alone and when presented with the option of a relationship he or she will accept. It’s not a guarantee that every time a girl asks a guy out he will say yes, but it will happen more often than not. In regards to WPA most girls who took the initiative and asked the guy received a yes. With these odds, girls everywhere should realize a movement needs to be taken towards women’s chivalry.

Everyone knows a girl who has been heartbroken or reached an epiphany and suddenly discovered that all guys are icky. Realization hits these girls when a boyfriend suddenly starts cheating or when he turns into a complete and utter jerk. Real talk: most of the time it’s the girl’s fault. I know it sounds crazy, but usually there are obvious signs for the girls to back out of the relationship. If you have seen his eyes look down at another girl’s money maker more times than he’s looked at yours, if your boyfriend couldn’t care less about

your friends or family, if he is texting another girl while you are talking, or if he continuously writes on her wall and keeps tweeting her, I’m sorry to say, but it just isn’t gonna work out.

Therefore, girls why are you still with him even though he continuously shows no consideration for your feelings? A girl I have had the pleasure to be close friends with has had an on and off relationship with the same guy for four years. He treated her right for the first three months but ever since his true colors have surfaced. She has allegedly dropped him like a bad habit, but as soon as he buys her some ice cream or sends a two-page text message it’s all good. Her life has been a roller coaster simply based upon the fact that he is crazy and can’t keep his life in check. She is hellbent on the fact that deep down he is a special guy who sincerely cares. NO, he really doesn’t. He just needs someone when he gets bored on a Saturday night to spice up his life.

The problem with most on and off relationships is the fact that one party starts off nice but turns into the monster he or she truly is. People don’t change and if they do it’s very, very rare. What happens when you wait on one guy to hopefully get his act together and he doesn’t? What about all the other guys who actually would’ve treated you right? You missed your opportunity just because one lucky guy texted you when you were down on a Friday evening and made you feel better about yourself. Don’t wait for a guy who treats you like dirt to switch back into Prince Charming, venture out to more fellows and gents.

A solution waits for every type of person either looking for a relationship or already in one. If you happen to be in a relationship right now don’t be blinded by the perception of puppy love and make sure your boundaries are being respected. If “the one” still hasn’t come knocking on your door, do your part to go find him or her or at least lead them in the right direction. Make this Valentine’s Day an acceptable holiday by taking the initiative and getting your love life in check.